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On the road with Finding Zoe.

April 28, 2015

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My heart was so opened. Watching Zoe play football with her birth father BJ, whom she hadn’t seen in eight years, see her birth mom, Jess, whom she also hadn’t seen in years, and watching her meet her half-sister Adelynne for the very first time. She saw her loving foster mother, Lois, who signed to her at six months old—when she so desperately needed to be exposed to language. It was overwhelming for me to watch, and I can only imagine how Zoe felt.

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We were a group of deaf and hearing friends on a mission to help raise money for the Options Pregnancy Center, where Jess first learned about adoption (Chapter 6 in Finding Zoe). Brandi’s sign language interpreter Naomi was there, Bradley our videographer, who is deaf and a doll, Brandi, me, and Zoe. We filmed, made presentations, ate, played, had very little sleep, hoping to spread the word about Options, adoption, self-acceptance, and sell some books!!

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Brandi and I are working towards filming a documentary about Finding Zoe. I spent all day interviewing everyone who was part of the story. I had written about them, and was finally able to meet BJ, who gives birth fathers a good name, and Marlys, the social worker, whose controversial actions helped Zoe to find her true home.

If you know the story you know how all of the pieces had to fit together perfectly for Zoe to be led home. Zoe’s birth mother, birth father, and first adoptive parents all had to reject her. Brandi, too, realizes from the writing process, that her deep struggle to accept herself as a deaf person was all part of her being groomed to be Zoe’s mother.

One point I will be making on my upcoming radio tour is that a person doesn’t have to be deaf to identify with Brandi’s struggle to gain self-acceptance. As a child, kids made fun of her because she couldn’t hear and talked funny, and she was extremely hard on herself, too.

But deaf people don’t have a monopoly on dealing with issues of self-worth. Who can’t relate to struggling to find their place in the world and fit in, being judged and judging others, and judging themselves, at one point in their life. I certainly can. That’s one of the reasons I was so drawn to write the book with Brandi. And here we are. On the road with Finding Zoe.Tweet This

I would be honored to hear a sentence or two about your own journey to self-acceptance.

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2 Responses to “On the road with Finding Zoe.”

  1. This is such a beautiful love story and it is still being written. Thank you Gail for sharing this experience with is all! Just beautiful!

    Love and Light
    CLB

  2. Thank you for acknowledging that it is still being written, Christine. It sure is. I always said that I never knew where the story ended and the telling of it began. Love and light to you!!

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