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False assumption? Just let it go.

May 01, 2014

The other day I read a post on Facebook about making assumptions by the lovely Lissa Rankin, M.D. She explained how, for years, she had contorted her body in all sorts of weird shapes while reaching under the kitchen sink to fill the soap dispenser. She tried finding an easier way to fill it, but couldn’t, so assumed that that was how it had to be done. One day the plumber came and showed her how to easily fill it from the top of the sink, and after sensing her embarrassment, graciously explained how anyone could have made the same mistake. She was very grateful to him.

I’m grateful to Lissa. If a world-renowned doctor and healer can make assumptions then I can, too. We all make them. There’s nothing wrong with that, yet Lissa’s example, however insignificant, shows us how our assumptions really shape our lives. If we make a lot of erroneous ones our life will be very different than if we don’t. An assumption is a perception, and our perceptions lead us to have certain expectations. Here’s my example: I recently gave a colleague a video to watch that I created and was waiting to hear her response. I wanted her to be impressed. She emailed me back saying that it was, “very powerful indeed,” yet I thought that if she really liked it she would have spent more time on her response.

Big assumption. There could be dozens of reason why she responded the way she did.

We make assumptions all day long; some of them are fine to have, and some, probably not-so-fine. False assumptions, especially the ones that are hurtful to ourself and others, can be debilitating if they become hard-held beliefs. I wonder how my life would be different if I let go of the assumptions that were holding me back. I’m letting go of them one by one.

What’s your example? I challenge you to find one erroneous assumption that you made today, and let it go. Then write and tell me about it in the comments. I’m going to put  our collective false assumptions into one big list, and press delete.


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